The guy was young and awkward about his shaggy good looks. He was cool and funny and he loved his guitar. The guy wrote sad songs and he liked being in a band almost as much as he liked having a girlfriend.
I was young and shy and I should have gotten up on stage with him to sing his sad songs. I could have shaken a tambourine and snuck sips of beer. I might have flirted with his weirdo band mates. I should have had more fun than I did, sitting quietly on my barstool playing the good girl, wishing I was at the library studying instead.
I should have been different. I should have been less careful. I should have grabbed my camera and gone to more of his shows. I should have put on a skimpy dress and cheered louder than I did. I definitely should have demanded a quickie in the alley around back.
Once I dated a guy in a band and who played guitar. I should have told him that I loved his music more than I loved him. I should have photographed him, drawn him, painted him so that he could see himself the way I saw him: awesome. I should have let his thing be my thing because if thereâ€™s one thing Iâ€™ve learned itâ€™s that there are two kinds of love. Thereâ€™s the scared kind, where you say no and hold on too tight. Then thereâ€™s the true kind where you say anything is possible. Anything, even the impossible. And you let go.
I dated a guy in a band once, and youâ€™re not going to believe this, but I told him to quit. I told him that the band was not for me. I told him to choose.
Iâ€™m telling you, he should have let me go.